It takes two to parent!
What I am grateful for…
When Sey was born after 42 hours of labour I was exhausted. In fact I had closed my eyes for a minute to wake up after four hours. Then the baby was fed and my mother offered to take care of him in her arms. Mahi was with me inside the labour room all through was equally exhausted but he insisted he hold Sey instead. He held him for all of the two hours before it was time to try to feed him again. I couldn’t sleep much out of exhaustion I remember dozing and then waking up to see him walk the length of the room with the baby on his shoulders and then doze off again. Each time I woke he would still be holding Sey close to keep him warm. I remember the warmth I felt in my heart at that moment. It is the most precious feeling. The labour , the pain and the ordeal of motherhood that followed after was all worth it for that one moment.
In the first few weeks of bringing Sey home and struggling with latching the baby to the breast and general sleeplessness, Mahi always offered to hold him and rock him to sleep. His shoulders were Sey’s constant pillow come burp slab. Sey peed on his dad first before he tarnished any of us! ❤️
The Mr having to return to work was heartbreaking for us. I can surely say those were the 2 most pampered weeks of new motherhood. I wish this country realises the importance of paternity leave and the impact it can have on raising our future generation.
Especially when in many households the role of the father is a traditional breadwinner and disciplinarian. Unfortunately there is very less in the form of a bond between a new born child and the father. From the initial hesitation to carry the new born, to diapering solely being a mom-duty and giving them a bath being a martian task , father’s play a pathetic role in new parenthood.
Though the changing economic roles have impacted the image of fatherhood, the child is largely still dependent on the sensitivity of a mother to fulfil its emotional needs. The role of a father is very important for a child to develop positive psychological characteristics such as self esteem, coping with tasks and lower levels of depression as an adult.
Fatherly love helps children develop a sense of their place in the world, which helps their social, emotional and cognitive development and functioning. Moreover, children who receive more love from their fathers are less likely to struggle with behavioral or substance abuse problems.
It’s 2021, if the pandemic has taught us anything- it is time for the father to become a primary care giver. It takes two to parent
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