I fully realized on my 31st birthday that my life was taking me on a path. The ‘road not taken’, my life had diverged into a yellow wood and I had inadvertently chosen my fork without realizing I was at the junction. I cannot honestly say Frost would have been proud of my melodramatic breakdown.
Why 31 you ask ? Not my 30th dreaded birthday. Well for my big #30 I was cocooned by the flamboyant extravaganza that was hosted to celebrate my existence of 3 decades (truth be told I haven’t much to my credit except that now I can distinguish between real and fake silk like a pro and give myself perfect manicures that aren’t embarrassing). These unsuspecting souls and 3 rounds of cosmopolitan (the vodka) convinced me that 30’s is the new 20’s (why even?) and our youth is even more primer than prime itself. I kicked back and partied my life on. I should have been warned by the horrible hangover the morning after but youth had its frivolous helmet on my right hemisphere.
A full year of dallying in delusions and dwelling on life in general got me waking up.
Just think about this. I can safely say that I am sorted about the twenties now after I have walked the talk. I know I owned some parts of it and escaped most of it unscathed. But there are chunks of horrifying almost traumatic episodes I wish I had dealt with better. I wish my future (present) self had written a letter warning me don’t look up from that coffee in the college canteen (screwed up 4 good years- on that another day) or what were you even thinking about when you bought that bodycon sequins dress? And girl, this crash dieting is going to screw your stomach! More importantly there are still a list of things I should have ticked off in my 20s that I didn’t get to and instead chose to waste my precious years on unwarranted relationship goop which did nothing advantageous to my self esteem. That was what had to change this decade.
Once you enter your 30s you are a full adult. Yes, we should have been that legally 12 years ago but did any of us really have our bases covered in the 20s? Wishful thinking 😀 By now most of us have a full time job and the hassle that comes with it. Tell me you love waking up each day to go to work and I will stop writing this right now and go bury myself ! No? Let’s read on.
What are the seven red flags that should lead to the realization that this is adulthood?
- You are not satisfied with takeaways and swiggying it and want to have a good home cooked meal atleast 4 days a week. Breakfast has suddenly become important to you.
- You value sleep
- You have lesser friends than you used to and you find that there are very few people you want to let into your life
- Money seems to have become a very important factor in many of your life decisions
- You dress more sensibly and it is no longer a struggle to explore what your style is. Basically you have a style.
- You realise your body has limits and needs taking care of.
- By now you are probably responsible for at the least one other human/ nonhuman adult or non-adult. It is not just you and your decisions anymore.
If you have ticked off atleast 5 of the above said seven points I hope this series of articles can bring a sense of control in the mayhem that we call life. Life as we know it. A small survival guide for the next ten years ahead. To own a decade that indeed needs to be celebrated.
Welcoming to Adulting. You have truly arrived.